Married or … Merry? by Kate Papas
What are the ingredients of a marriage? Pure love? Free sex? Nice home cooked food? Children playing around? Then, what about mother- in- laws, divorce, hatred and alimony? In my opinion, in Greece and all over the world, marriage is a mystery and -even worse- “the secret to a happy marriage remains a secret…”
In Married or …merry? Papas enumerates 41 reasons why readers “should keep marriage at bay,” from being brainwashed by your spouse to being misled by society that all marriages have happy ending like in fairy tales. According to Papas, “life–with or without softener–is hard,” and marriage carries several disagreeable situations. Therefore, one should not get married or should seek “merry alternatives.”
The author’s intention is not to condemn marriage, but rather to reveal the humoristic side of all problematic situations in a marriage, to persuade readers not to get married, and to recognize that married life is similar in all countries of the planet. “We are all in the same boat!” she writes. Papas wrote and published her first Greek book about marriage with the purpose to console all married and single people, including her. Then she rewrote the same concept in English and Married or… merry? was born. The fact that she was a married woman, made her suitable and knowledgeable to tell her experiences in marital life, just like a soldier is suited to talk about fighting in a battlefield. She wrote this book because she just had “to say a few things about a timeless subject.”
Papas accomplishes her goals by referring to Greek and international proverbs and sayings to support her opinions on marriage. She offers tips and advice for readers who, after reading her book, “have decided to proceed with marriage,” such as visiting a marriage counselor first or finding “someone on your level.” She also encourages reader to voice their point of view and experiences so that others will benefit too.
Overall, Papas shares her experiences and opinions on a hot subject that makes you laugh and identify with your own married life. (By Harikleia Sirmans)
About the Author
Kate Papas was born in Athens in the last century! Although she studied to become an actress, she spent most of her professional life as a singer. After the birth of her second son she completely changed direction and started writing (singing only in the bathroom…) At the same time she worked in elementary schools, organizing theatrical activities. Her most heartfelt achievement, however, has been the creation of a drama group, composed of blind people. In 2007 she won the second National Award conferred by the Ministry of Culture on writers of children’s theatrical plays, while in 2012 she hopes to win the hearts of the American people with this little book! She lives in the famous town of Athens with her two sons, her –original- husband (!) and their blissfully peaceful dog!